Loneliness

When “Memories” of my dear husband began to fade an intense lonesomeness invaded my soul. I knew things would NEVER, EVER again be the way they were. I had left the room called "Memories" and now found myself in a place where a haunting melody filled the air, like a bird lost at sea. It ripped at my heart. This room was called "Loneliness.” There was no one but me as far as my eyes could see. I was alone with my pain.

I must admit that on a few occasions, I fell down a trap door to the dungeon of the mansion called “Despair.” Very dark down there; a room without hope. When Loneliness and Despair became too much, I found a secret passage back to the photo albums and home movies.

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Anniversary Grief

When the anniversary of a loved one's death, his birthday, or a wedding anniversary approaches, it is as if by unseen powers the emotions buried alive on those days again begin to pulse.

It is easy to misunderstand the signals. They occur without fanfare. Emotions can get testy. A small infraction seems disproportionately deep. Sleep can be disturbed. A funny feeling that something isn't quite right pervades an otherwise happy life. Check the calendar and, "Oh, Sunday is our anniversary. It would have been 23 years." Instead it was eighteen.

And so a wound that looked healed is open again if only for a single commemorative tear.

The "Anniversary" room in Grief Mansion is decorated with wedding photos, birthday balloons and Christmas trees. It has a magnetizing power that becons my return even years after leaving Grief Mansion.

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Grief Mansion is a powerful, emotional place to live. No one would choose this residence. Mystery abounds at every dark corner. Sorrow is in the water. But, it is a safe place to cry, to release some of the deep pain you feel. Life hurts. In the end, I hope you find your journey to have healed more than harmed. May you discover new strength as you travel through your own maze of grief.

I will post stories, quotes, links, and questions designed to assist you on the way.

Need a good cry? Listen: "To Where You Are" by Josh Groban